I don't have a lot to say about intimacy between a husband and a wife. I'm at peace with that part of my relationship with my husband and I don't feel the need to really discuss it right now. But, I do want to say something about this verse:
vs 15 ... On the other hand, if the unbelieving spouse walks out, you've got to let him or her go. You don't have to hold on desperately. God has called us to make the best of it, as peacefully as we can.
There was a night a few years ago when, in a drunken rage, my husband pinned me down on the bed and tried to strangle me. For years, we had fought. It had often been violent. But that night ... it was the end for me. With some counseling, and a lot of support from some very close friends and family, I filed for divorce, and left my husband. (He is known as The Ex around these parts of the blogosphere.) But along with that support came a very healthy dose of fellow Christians telling me that I was most certainly going to hell for walking away from him. Those people must not have paid too much attention to this verse.
A word out there to any woman who has undergone any kind of abuse from her husband...
You are a valued Princess of the King of Kings, and Lord of Lords. God created you in and for His Glory. You do not deserve to be used as a punching bag - whether that is physically, mentally, or sexually. Try as hard as you can to get your husband the help he needs. Call everyone you can to help him. But - and this is a really big but - if you have exhausted your resources, and he shows no sign of getting better, and doesn't sign his heart over to God, then it is ok to let him go. It is perfectly acceptable to grow in love on your own and make peace. You are allowed, and you deserve that. But be cautious ... make sure you are getting the emotional and spiritual care that you need through that process.
I did ... and I don't regret any of the choices I made during that time.
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